In fact, I became a "feminist" and vowed never to marry. I was not going to let some lazy man dictate how I lived my life and ruin it. (See what I mean about warped?)
Thankfully, I am a reader. If an author is well studied in scripture I will respect it and study the Bible to double check what they are saying. So when I fell in love with Josh I wanted to read as many Christian marriage books as I could to make sure I really wanted to get married and be the wife God wants me to be.
You know what I found?
A submissive wife supports her husband, respects him, and helps him be all God called him to be.
1 Corinthians 11:3: "But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God."
You've heard that saying, "Behind every strong man is an even stronger woman." It is so true! Think of it this way too - beautiful, gorgeous pillars that hold up a building. Take away those pillars and that building is useless, falling to the ground. Be his support system, don't tear him down or tell him how lazy/annoying/moody/useless he is. Being submissive is not a building squashing the pillar, it is the lovely pillar upholding the building and being shown off as beautiful in the process!
Ephesians 5:33 "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
There is a book I highly recommend to every couple: Love and Respect by ***. Basically, we women thrive on love, we need it. Men need love too, but what they need and thrive on is respect. Admire him, build him up. Show him that even if you disagree with something he does or the way he does it, you still respect him.
Genesis 2:18 "The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Thank you to Annie for today's guest post! Annie Shultz is a cloth diapering mom blogger at MamaDweeb.com