Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Needing Advice

Had a horrifying experience at swim lessons yesterday!  It was Little E's first lesson EVER and he was in a class with 2 other little girls.  One of the girls was crying the whole time so the teacher held her the entire time.  Since she was holding the little girl she was not paying as close attention to the other two.  She had told them to hold onto the side of the wall, but then had her head turned helping the little girl she was carrying.  I turned for a second to watch my daughter in her class and when I turned back Little E was gone!  For a split second I was thinking, "He must have gotten out" then I realized he was UNDER THE WATER!!!!  I ran at lightening speed over to him and pulled him up.  He was struggling under the water and was trying to get his head up.  I yelled at the teacher for not seeing it happen.  She goes, " I told him to hold the wall". I looked her strait in the eye and said, "It was NOT HIS fault!".  So, I then pulled E out and he was coughing pretty bad.  I went to the pool manager and reported what happened.  She was pretty apologetic, said she would give me my money back if I wanted but insisted he should stay in.  She said taking him out now could bring on a fear of water. She said she can put him with another teacher.  I am at a loss as to what to do. I came home last night and cried and was pretty shaken up all night over the whole thing.  I don't want to cause more fear, but at the same time I do not want to take him back new teacher or not.  E is very tiny for his age and the area where they teach is up to his neck.  It was even the 2 foot area he was drowning in too.  I just don't know if I could trust those teachers.  I almost would rather take him to the pool and work with him myself.  What do you all think?  What would you do in this situation? Do you think I am just being an overprotective mama or do I have valid reasoning here.  Do you think it would be better to hold off lessons until he is older/taller?
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13 comments:

Krafty Girl said...

Tough one. The first time I put my girl in lessons she was 3 and something similar happened. The kids in the class were sitting on a table in the water. The Life Guard was with another child and my girl started getting wiggly and fell off into the water. I yelled!!! "She is under!" The guard saw right away that she was under and scooped her up. She was fine, Thank God, I was more shook up then she was. We continued on and she is getting to be a great swimmer.
I would change teachers and keep him in. It's true, if you take him out, he probably will be afraid of water. He is young enough, that if you try to find something positive about it with your boy, then he will forget it ever happened. I hope I helped a little...God Bless, Beth

Melinda at Weiser Academy said...

Being in a swim class with another child screeming the whole time is traumatic enough. I would either get in the water and assist the teacher or find a class that has two teachers. If the teachers eyes and hands are on one student, who helps the other students? My husband and I have this priority for going out to stores and lakes and streams, there should be two adults. We have six kids,and if we go somewhere that has potential dangers and one child has an emergency or is needy for any reason, it puts the other children at risk when there is only one adult available. But two adults can handle the needs of several children, unless they all have an emergency at the same time!

The Headstrong Housewife! said...

Go in with him during the class! I went in with a girl that I used to babysit, I held her during times when she was not swimming.

MJ @ Creative Madness Mama said...

As the story goes for my brother so I've heard from my mother many times (he's almost 40 now) she took him to their local Y back in the day and the lifeguard was telling her show him something about floating and kept saying he'll rise to the top and he just sank. I don't know the whole story, but I know that she got her money back and a verbal lashing to the lifeguard. She went on and then my aunt started teaching lessons and that is where all the rest of us learned. There it was about 10 kids and four adults per class, adults sometimes qualifying as a 16 year old etc. Either way, it was almost an arm per pupil.

We haven't started lessons yet (AB is just now 3) but it is a concern because I always just assumed we'd have my aunt, but she's in a different state than we are now. If it were me I would try another teacher skeptically. And I would be in the water too. If they say you cannot be in the water, they're not worth your time because this is a very important part of education and LIFE for your child. Even if you are not the one physically showing him to float and kick and etc, being there to grab when need be is worth it and important IMHO.

Lori B said...

Find a class where YOU are in the water with you child and the teacher. These are the ones I go to with my son and they're great! It teaches me what to teach him when we're in our own pool and it ensures that there is an adult (me) with 100% attention on my son.

Berry Patch said...

There is no excuse to putting your child st risk. None. There needs to be two adults...especially if the instructor is always holding another child. How is she suppose to teach the others? When my oldest was 3ish, we started lessons but there was only one other child in his class. The child not having direct instruction SAT on the side of the pool out of the water. If you decide to go back, I would insist on either being in the pool to help or that the instructor have someone to help or...even better...the parent of the screaming child be with their child. It's definetly a tough decision, but paramount is keeping your child safe.

HappilyDomestic said...

Thank you ladies for your advice. I do appreciate it. The problem with me going in the water is that I have a 2 year old and a baby to look after while my kids do their swim lessons. My husband is currently working out of town and does not get home until 7:30pm, so he cannot be there to help either. My plan is to call the pool supervisor today and tell her what changes I think need to be made for the children's safety and then I will be pulling him from the class and getting a refund. I will just make sure my husband & I get him to a pool ASAP to work with him before any fears are built up. I would go with another teacher, but the only other teacher they have is about 19 and has 4 kids in her class. I don't see it being much better with her. I just thank God my son is here today and that I saw the incident before anything serious ended up happening. Even the life guard did not see him! Very upsetting!

Lori said...

Mistakes happen, but this one was preventable for sure. I am so glad your baby boy is okay. Just get him in the water soon. I would not take him back to OM if they arn't going to acknowledge thier mistake and do something about it.

lori

MrsScorziello said...

My DS (he had just turned 3) went under for almost a minute at a friend's pool earlier this summer, I totally freaked out. Daddy let him remove his arm floaties and I didn't know it, and he (Daddy) let him play around the pool still. Needless to say, I chewed my DH out for that poor judgement call!! It's taken a few months, but finally DS is getting a bit brave and going in the water again (with floaties, of course!) We just had to ease him back in. Lots of praise and encouragement, to help him shake his fear.

HappilyDomestic said...

That is so scary! He is lucky to be alive! pools can be scary places. I think it would take me equally as long to forgive my husband!

Allyssa said...

Does your pool take volunteers? Maybe there's a friend's daughter/son who would like to be a lifeguard/swim teacher eventually and could volunteer with his class.

The teacher should not be holding a little kid the whole class. If the little girl was scared her parents need to be in there with her. "hold the wall" is not necessarily safe because we all know that kids get distracted too. Our pool uses milk cartons tied together into a little platform in the 2ft area for the preschool classes to stand on. It's a lot safer than just holding the wall. Maybe propose that idea to the pool?

I just don't understand how she had THREE students and didn't notice that one of the students was underwater... or how the OTHER lifeguards didn't notice... SMH...

Savannah said...

How old is your little E? Either I missed that in the story or it wasn't in there...

hannah said...

I do believe that he was four at that time.

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