Proverbs 4:23 tells us "Guard your heart more than anything else, because the source of your life flows from it.". Our young children are not yet responsible for gaurding their hearts, we are. We must be careful what they watch, read and listen to. We must be careful of the friends we allow them to have and the wordly things we allow them to be exposed to. I have a friend who's son lowers his head when walking past Victoria's Secret in the mall. What is amazing to me is this was unprompted. He has been gaurded by his parents and when he saw the immodest and seductive display he was embarrassed. He lowered his head because his heart was modest. When we allow worldy things to come into their hearts we are allowing the enemy to steal little bits of their innocence and we are slowly showing them that modesty does not apply to them. We are telling them it is the woman's job only to keep them from stumbling.
We all know and understand that God made men to be visualy stimulated. Often we don't really consider what young women may be feeling in this area. Women are not as visual as men but we are human and we were created to enjoy the male body. Our society is not just telling women that their value comes from their looks. Now more then ever men are being pressured to look and dress in a sexy way. It seems to me that boys aren't just swimming in swim trunks and no shirt. They are swimming in tight, low cut trunks that show much more than we need to see. They are tanning and waxing and preaning and trying to get attention in the same way we teach our young women not to. We must hold our young boys to a standard just as we do our young girls. This will be just as diverse as it is for young women, but it is important to decide what is appropriate and what is not. We must also ask them "Are you dressing attractively or to attract?".
Teaching a boy modesty is helping him to honor himself and his future wife. We are teaching him that his body is sacred and special too. Their bodies belong to their future wives and she deserves to have all of her husband just as her husband deserves to have all of her.
How do you teach your boys modesty? Do you think it is important? Why or why not?
Written By Happily Domestic Contributor: Brittney Thompson