|My girls "working" while wearing skirts at a pioneer party we had last year.|
Now don't get me wrong, I still own pants and even a few capris. I garden in them, work out in them, and sometimes when I am deep cleaning or doing a ton of moving up and down the stairs I wear them. But I don't wear them in public or when we have company. I think I have only done this about 3 times since we made this choice for our family over 2 years ago now.
Maggie modeling one of her favorite summer time outfits.
For my daughters things are a little different. I still want them to grow up knowing the difference in the roles of men and women, I want them to learn to be modest at all times, but I also know that they are children. When we venture to the park, or to a friends' house, to Grandpa's farm, or to the play place at McDonalds you will often find them in pants or maybe even capris but nothing above the knee.
During the first few weeks or maybe even months of this journey I found myself bothered by my skirt at times. It seemed to be in the way all the time, but I knew that it was an adjustment like anything else. Each time I sighed over my skirt being in the way again I trained myself to remember how much the cross hurt Jesus or how much my sin hurts God. I prayed for my husband and for my respect of him and his position in our home. And I saw God do a mighty work in my heart. I came to realize that if I wanted my children to learn how to respect me I needed to model that respect toward my husband.
God slowly started showing me areas where my heart wasn't right. Often times I had outwardly showed respect to my husband or other authority but I hadn't done it in my heart. And that needed to change. One of the biggest surprises in this journey came in the way that husband treats me now. I am in no way saying he wasn't kind, gentle, and loving before, but now things are different. I am sure, though I have never asked him, it is more pleasant to come home to a nicely dressed woman rather than one in sweats and a t-shirt every day. I focus now to take time (most days) to rebrush my hair and teeth, change my shirt if needed and maybe put some lip gloss or perfume on before he comes home. I want him to look forward to coming home and not just do it because he has to. I want him to know that I value "helping" him as a priority and a priviledge in my life. And dressing differently than him has helped me to always remember to put him first. And that makes a successful marriage when both people put the other first.
Modesty in swimwear is important to us. I made these suits for my girls
this past summer and they are working so well.
I never really expected that a change in dress could bring about such a huge change in my marriage, in my self-image, in my heart, and even in my relationship with my children, but it has. I take my job within the home much more seriously now that I get up and dress in "nice" clothing that becomes a woman of position and respect. I no longer just survive but I have embraced my calling as a woman fully. And I strive each day to make my heart follow God's calling on my life and dressing differently than my husband is the outward showing of the change I am striving for in my heart.
Like I said, this is a journey that has blessed me. I don't feel hindered by it and it was and still is my choice. I want to encourage you to embrace the calling of the Lord to modesty and Godly femeninity fully. For each one of us this will look different and the calling will be individual. But let us encourage each other in this walk and calling of modesty no matter how different it is.
Written by Happily Domestic contributor - Amanda Sikes